Soul Mates

Soul mates by definition are people that are compatible with another person in every way as far as their temperaments are concerned. Often I think and verbalize that I do not believe this is possible or even practiced these days. Divorce is running rampant in toady's society not to mention the people who are in relationships that simply despise each other. And if these weren't reason enough to think that "soul mates" are either imaginary or much harder to find these days, there is the added pressure to look a certain way in order to find anyone not just your soul mate. Soul mates are suppose to love your soul, but for my girls out there, we know that's not normally correct. Women and girls alike are expected to be little Miss Susie homemaker while looking like an airbrushed photo off the cover of Maxium. We are all trying desperately to find the one person who loves us for who we really are. Personally, I have always thought that this Cinderella attitude was careless and childish, but sometimes the hope of being swept off my feet and rode off into the sunset on a white horse is very appealing. Every now and then I see a sweet movie and think, yep that's what I need, a prince. Of course our modern day princes are not what they used to be and most of them, as far as I'm concerned, should have remained frogs. I mean who trained some of these men, or should I call them boys? People often blame the establishment of marriage itself, but I think that is unfair. Maybe couples jump the gun these days and get into a legal and binding situation too soon. Without spending quality time with someone to get to know them thoroughly, how could one make such a life altering decision to be devoted to each other for eternity. There is a slight chance that the process of finding one's soul mate is and always has been more about compatibility than about fate. Never in my experiences have I met someone who feel in love at first site. What is that? The answer to that question is lust. Ah, good ole lust never fails us. Now, I need to say for the record that there are marriages that have wonderful success stories. These people took the necessary time to get to know their spouse and they feel in love not lust. Real love is all consuming and burns bright and then smolders for a very long time. Where as lust burns hot and bright for a very short amount of time but while you are with the person you have been lusting after you feel like you are on fire. Overall, I'm not sure that there is just one person for everyone on this planet at this time. It takes a lot of sacrifice to be with someone and the majority of the men I know these days are all about themselves. Let me stop right here and say that I do know men that have great qualities and would be wonderful companions. I have a guy friend that I am constantly in awe of how sweet and attentive he can actually be. Like a mythical creature, he is sensitive, cute, kind, and fun all wrapped into one man. He cares about my friends, which is amazing, and likes to hang out with me often. So, ladies, I suppose there are some good ones left, it's just really difficult to fish through the bad ones to hook you a good one. I still don't know if buy the idea of soul mates even though I have heard of instances that it may have happened. Marriage and relationships take hard work and so does being a grown-up and nobody ever said that it would be easy, but I guess we have to keep our heads up and hope for the best. I will continue to keep my head up and smile even if I don't think it's practical to believe in a crazy idea that when you meet that magic person that your life will just fall into place and you will live happily ever after. So until next time, have a great week and if you find one send him my way ;)